I don't get it!

This post has nothing to do with the baby - sorry but I have to get this off my chest.

I have seen a lot of people on Facebook and Twitter use the acronym "FML". For those who aren't familiar with the meaning  - It's, Fu*k My Life.

If you are reading this and you are one of those people who use this or have used it - please don't take offense to what I am about to say - I am just trying to offer a little more perspective and maybe something to think about the next time you think your life is beyond manageable.

I am pretty sure none of my FB friends are homeless (If they are they have not been broadcasting it). They have a roof over their heads. They all have a computer at least. If not, they have a cell phone, most have smart phones, or an IPad. They have, TV's, cable, cars, etc.  Most have a list of friends on FB in the hundreds. They have clothes to wear and food to eat. That's a long list of things that some people don't have, wished they had, dream about having one day. I know I don't have some of those things on the list. With that said - most of them also have the usual downs in life. Finances, medical hurdles, romantic issues, disagreements with friends, etc.

My point - in an effort not to rant because that is not my intention - no one is without their problems. Not one person in your life isn't dealing with an issue or concern of their own. For those that use the FML,  are your issues or concerns that dire that it dictates a FML? From what I have read - I would say no.

Look around you, take stock in what you have. Focus on that and not what you feel you are without! I bet you will be surprised to find that you have more in your life to appreciate. It's easy to focus on what you don't have and lose site of what you do have. My intention for this post is to encourage those people to refocus their efforts on the positive.

There is a saying, "You get what you give" and that's not strictly referring to what you physically give, such as time, clothing, food, monetary donations... it also includes attitude. If you are giving off a negative attitude you can count on being met with negativity (think about it, there is also a saying "when it rains it pours" - could that have come about because those people are only seeing the current storm, and nothing else). Try meeting difficult situations with positivity and see what happens. We all fall, get blind sided, and feel like we get dealt a sh!ty hand at times.

You cannot control what happens to you but you can control, 100%, how you react to what happens to you. 

Shower me with LOVE!

I am still recouping from my travels this weekend and all the excitement. Ryan and I traveled back to TN Monday morning after a weekend of visiting with friends and family, celebrating and catching up.


I flew into Cleveland Friday afternoon and was happy to be back with Ryan after almost 2 weeks of being apart. Even though he was late picking me up from the airport, I couldn't be upset, I was happy to see him and show him this belly that 'popped' out over the last two weeks. He was surprised to hear that no one at the airport or with SW Airlines asked if I was allowed to fly. I had my letter just in case but no one even made mention. As we drove to my parents house he tells me that he signed up to run a trail half marathon in the morning. The man is crazy! He had just gotten done running on the trails for 2 hours and then signs up for a 1/2 marathon, complete spur of the moment. FREAK! The only thing I was concerned with was making sure he was back at my parents house in time to thank everyone who came to the shower. He made sure he arrived in time and had a Chai tea for me as well. YUM!

The shower was given by my sisters Kate, Kim, and Dina, my Mom and my bestest friend Sonya - who surprised me when she walked in the door carrying balloons. The party planners thought it would be fun to lie to the mother to be and tell her that her dearest friend from high school could not make the shower and then have her show up. There were tears, some obscenities spoken and lots of hugs. I was so happy to see her! I cannot thank these ladies enough. Everything was perfect and I had a nice time. It was low key, everyone visited, good food, and all the right people were there. My soon to be sister in law Dina made the cake, from scratch... I think I have some competition in the baking department. It was sooo delicious and looked too good to cut into.

The hardest part of the shower was opening presents in front of everyone. It makes me sweat when all eyes are on me. Especially when I have a hard time bending at the waist. Ryan and I received a lot of nice things for our new addition and we are truly grateful to have such generous people in our lives. One of the gifts was priceless. We have a family heirloom, a bassinet. This bassinet started with my Mom. My grandmother used this bassinet for all 6 of her kids, I believe most, if not all of the grandchildren have slept in it and a few of the great grandchildren have slept in it. It will be 59 years old on 11/15 (our due date is 11/19 for those who may not know) and needed a new mattress and sheets. My Mom took this to a lady she works with and asked her if she could make a new mattress (since it's so old the new mattresses wont fit) and possibly make a few sheets to go with it. I was blown away at this woman's talent and care she put into this project. I am honored that our baby will get to sleep where Grandma once laid her head - along with many other babies in our family.

We are quickly approaching the 10 week count down. Saturday will mark 30 weeks! I can't believe it. There are clothes and blankets, and towels to wash. I'm a planner so I am doing all this labours work now before I am to tired, big, and achy to do it all. We will have more frequent visits to the midwife and still an ever growing belly. The baby continues to "dance" when the late, great Michael Jackson is played and just last night he/she danced the ipod right off my belly. With each passing day we are closer and closer to meeting our new addition to this family and grow ever more excited and anxious.